"Overgeneralizing as Wilding defines it, takes one unfavorable incident and generalizes it into an ongoing unfavorable pattern, instead of letting the incident remain a one-time exception. Emotional reasoning is when I make having a difficult emotion into something bad about myself, instead of letting the emotional reaction stand on its own, and let the emotion pass without assigning new self-improvement tasks. " This is very familiar, I do this with myself and with others and it is not helpful! Personally I think I do this as a form of prediction and protection; which I use to try to change my behavior to avoid conflict. We grow as we learn 💜 Thank you for sharing this - her book is certainly intriguing!
I, too, have been considering what I do for protection, that V for Vigilance aspect - that may have been justified and needed in the past, but by now, may not be needed any more. I really appreciate how she puts the Sensitive side into a new perspective. New ideas for interpretation of meaning and needs and to take different actions!
"Overgeneralizing as Wilding defines it, takes one unfavorable incident and generalizes it into an ongoing unfavorable pattern, instead of letting the incident remain a one-time exception. Emotional reasoning is when I make having a difficult emotion into something bad about myself, instead of letting the emotional reaction stand on its own, and let the emotion pass without assigning new self-improvement tasks. " This is very familiar, I do this with myself and with others and it is not helpful! Personally I think I do this as a form of prediction and protection; which I use to try to change my behavior to avoid conflict. We grow as we learn 💜 Thank you for sharing this - her book is certainly intriguing!
I, too, have been considering what I do for protection, that V for Vigilance aspect - that may have been justified and needed in the past, but by now, may not be needed any more. I really appreciate how she puts the Sensitive side into a new perspective. New ideas for interpretation of meaning and needs and to take different actions!
"Direct it, protect it and nurture it." Yes.
Thanks Stephanie! It's a life long learning to find ways to direct, protect and nurture. Books are great resources, and so are people like you :-)